How to Approach the Perfect Girl – Step by Step Guide to get a First Date

Imagine you are taking a walk in the city.

The sun is shining. It’s a beautiful day. Or let’s say that it could be a beautiful day if you wouldn’t see so many beautiful women. It’s pure torture. You see one stunning girl after another and they all walk around in short dresses.

You would give everything to talk to one of these girls, to make her smile, and to take her out on a date.

But you are too afraid.

You can’t even remember the last time you approached a woman. Just the idea of approaching a woman makes you want to throw up. You don’t know how to stand, what to say, or when to ask her for her number. If you only knew these things, you would be way more confident.

Don’t you think it’s time to learn the steps of the perfect approach?

It is and the following infographic at the bottom about conversation techniques reveals each and every step which I will go through one at a time, because I want to make it as easy as possible for you to succeed. That’s why I decided to explain every single step in more detail.

I really hope that the following step-by-step guide helps you to approach beautiful women and to get more phone numbers than your phone can store.

1. Overcome Approach Anxiety

Yes, you can approach thousands of women and desensitize yourself to the experience of talking to beautiful women. That can work. But there’s an easier way and it starts in your mind.

Most men are so afraid of approaching women that their mind produces one horror scenario after another. As a result, approaching women becomes a burden instead of an exciting experience.

What’s the solution? Change your focus. Instead of focusing on all the negative things that could happen, you focus on achieving your goals. Imagine how it would feel to kiss a beautiful woman at the end of the date. If you leave your house with this image in mind, you can’t lose.

2. Have Fun When You Go Out

What do most guys do when they go out to approach women?

They are determined to get a few numbers and they try to look as cool as possible. As a result, they look aggressive and way too serious.

That’s not how you get girls. Girls want to date fun guys who love to have a good time. They want a playful adventurer. And in order to become this fun and playful man, you need to realize that approaching gorgeous women is not different than approaching any other person.

3. Don’t Hesitate

Men who hesitate masturbate.

It makes me cringe when I go to a bar and I see a bunch of guys who are staring at a girl without doing anything. The only thing you have to do in such a situation is to walk up to her and say hi.

Not hesitating is the best way to set yourself apart from all the other men who stand there and don’t take action.

4. Be Friendly and Charming

Unfortunately, a lot of guys take the advice to be alpha a bit too far. They confuse being a strong leader with looking like an Uruk-hai from The Lord of The Rings. Sorry, but looking like a mass murderer is not a good idea, at least not when you want to get dates with beautiful women.

Instead of being as alpha as possible, you should test how it is to be as friendly as possible.

Think about it. The moment you approach a woman she doesn’t know whether you are a genuine man or a rapist. You are a complete stranger and being friendly helps her to become comfortable around you.

5. Give Her a Compliment

There are a lot of misconceptions about giving women compliments. And yes, while giving compliments in a needy way can backfire, giving them with confidence can be extremely attractive.

The problem that a lot of guys who avoid giving compliments have is that the women they talk to don’t know what they actually want. When you give her a compliment she knows what you want. This can save you a lot of time.

6. Connect With Her

Every man who wants to approach women should also know how to connect with them. Women want to feel something before they allow a man to seduce them and connection is what triggers these feelings.

But don’t worry. It’s not that hard to connect with women. It’s a simple three-step process.

  1. Share your hobbies and passion with her.
  2. Ask her about her hobbies and passion.
  3. Refer her hobbies and passion to yourself.

That’s how you connect with women.

7. Have a Natural Conversation

A natural conversation flows. There are no uncomfortable pauses and you don’t just switch the topic without a reason.

Keep these things in mind when you talk to women. Don’t just talk about a topic because you want to talk about it and don’t just ask for her number because you promised yourself to get it in less than five minutes.

Let the conversation flow.

8. Read Her Signs

Women are not evil. They want you to succeed. In case you’ve watched the movie Hitch, you know that no woman wakes up saying “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today”.

When a woman likes you, she will let you know.

The only problem is that a lot of men are blind to the signals of women. Most men don’t even notice when a woman plays with her hair or bites her lips. I hope you are one of the few men who are aware of these signals.

9. Don’t Ask for Her Number

One of the biggest mistakes guys make is to ask for a girl’s number. Okay, asking is better than walking away with no phone number, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a more effective technique.

Don’t ask for her number. Demand her number.

Women are somehow conditioned to say no when a guy asks them for their number. She doesn’t feel the same pressure when you tell her to put her number into your phone. Say it with confidence and she will do it.

10. Enjoy Your First Date

Just keep your smartphone in your pocket and enjoy your date.

That’s all I have to say.

by Sebastian Harris

First Date


 

How to Improve Your SEO SEM Using Social Median Platforms

Social media is usually fun but SEO can be boring. So how about using your social media to boost your Dating Site’s SEO/SEM? Sounds interesting, does it not? There are many ways you can actually use your social media online presence to benefit your dating sites search rankings.

This article will be serving as a guide on how you can use your strong social media existence and get noticed more often in the search results.

How to Customize Dating Site Build Links

Google has always given importance to link building. Previously it just used to be links with no importance given on the quality. This made life easier for a lot of marketers since they started stuffing their content with links of lesser quality. Google was quick to change its algorithm and now gives more importance to quality links.

Links on almost every major social media platform is considered quality. This is because social sites have higher web authority. This is the reason why your Facebook page might even stand better than your dating website in the search results. Make sure that a link to your website in included on every social profile that you have and also to include it in posts from time to time.

How to Get and Collect Your Social Media Followers

When it comes to huge number of followers, the numbers don’t only look good on your profile but also helps a great deal with your overall SEO strategy. Now, you don’t have to a celebrity to have thousands of followers – what you need to do is post relevant stuff and you will be automatically followed. Here it is also worth mentioning that correct use of hashtags (#) can also be very useful in building up your social media profiles.

Pages with high number of real followers are ranked high in search results. By real followers we mean followers who interact or engage with you at some level. Engagement and interactions might include retweets, favourites, sharing your post, commenting on your post, etc. These are also called social signals and play a vital role in improving your SEO. Search engines analyse your social media sites and signals to find out how often do you post and how do you interact with your followers.

Just make sure that everything you’re posting is relevant and continuous. This tactic will help you build a stronger followers base, which will in return improve your SEO.

Making Your Dating Site’s Content Attractive & More Visible

When it comes to sharing nothing beats Pinterest. In fact, if you are not willing to share on this great social media platform you will have nothing else to do.

There are many social media sites, which allow you to socialize privately, that is not everyone is allowed to interact with but only those you want to. Facebook, Twitter, YouTube, etc. all have privacy levels. Setting a higher privacy level, according to us is equivalent to killing the purpose of social media – especially when you talk about your dating business’s social media existence.

An ideal business social media page should be public, everything you share must reach maximum people, it should be searchable and inviting people to connect. Talking about Facebook in particular, there is an option which lets search engine sniff through your timeline. This option must be enabled in order to make your business more visible. To do this, go to Facebook’s privacy settings and enable “do you want other search engines to link to your timeline?”

The number of times your post gets shared increase your page’s visibility is search results. So, while sharing on social media, make sure that your content is shareable, attractive and posted at the right time.

Using Keywords Effectively in Social Media Posts

Keywords are probably the most important factor for any SEO campaign. You just can’t achieve your goals if you don’t know your keywords and not using them sensibly.

How to come up with keywords is something that trouble most digital marketers. The best way to find quality long and short keyword is by doing extensive research. This means, knowing more about your target and niche audience, what they are looking for online and how the majority of them use social media. You can use keywords on Facebook as hashtags or simply phrases, on Twitter and Pinterest as hashtags and so on… Using keywords in your post, status, tweet, blog post will actually bring more traffic to your social media pages and this in turn will help improving your SEO.

Local Listings are also Important

Last but not the least, it is very important for any dating business – no matter what type to have listing on Google +. Here you must include your important information like address, website and contact details etc. People who are looking for your company specifically, on Google will be seeing this information. You can also ask some of your customers to leave a review on your Google + page as Google always ranks pages with quality and organic reviews.

Social media is a great tool for any type of online marketing campaign and also has a great influence in improving the overall SEO of your business’s online face.

Constant changes to the search engine’s algorithm make it hard for online marketers to use the best practice and stay on top but SEO is way too important to even think about avoiding and when it comes to social media playing its part in improving the SEO – it can really make a big impact on your search rankings and your online dating business.


See also: How to Use and Measure Social Media for Internet Dating Sites


 

Dating Site Tips

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Did You Know?

We want to hear from you… What do you think of our new dating site design and functionality? Are you having problems with any parts of the site? Do you have suggestions for new functionality, or more questions you’d like to see in the profiles? Do you have a Match success story to share? Whatever’s on your mind, if it relates to online dating, we’d love you to tell us about it.

– That you can find people in our database in a number of different ways? Visit the ‘Find People’ section to read the details and choose the method best suited to your needs.
 

– That our ‘Help’ section contains a detailed FAQ? Check it out for answers most of your queries. If you have a question the FAQ doesn’t answer, please ask us.

– Profiles with photos get up to 10 times as much attention as those without photos? Go to ‘My Profile’ and select the ‘Photos’ link to upload yours today.
 

You can easily add other members to your favourites list by clicking the ‘add to favourites’ link on their profile? If you keep interesting profiles in your favorites, you can find them again quickly the next time you visit.

 

You can block messages from another member who may be bugging you, by simply clicking the ‘block him or her’ link in their profile?

 

You can keep an eye on all the newest profiles with photos on the site by visiting the Gallery? The Gallery contains up to 100 of our members’ recently uploaded photos, searchable by country and gender so you can get to the good stuff quickly without wading through masses of photo-less profiles.


Dating Opening Lines

What is a good or rather, successful Opening Line or statement?

When it’s time to contact someone for the first time, what’s the best approach?

It’s all a question of style: your style. Some people opt for an enigmatic “Hello, how are you” and leave it at that, whilst some choose to rewrite the collected works of Shakespeare and include a complete medical history as well.

Our advice is to find a happy medium in between. If you’re hoping for a reply, which we assume is the idea as that’s what it’s all about, we suggest a paragraph or two with something about you and possibly some reference to their profile. Invite a reply by asking an appropriate question or two.

Avoid the negative or testing approach: “We’re not a match because….”. If that’s the case, well then why are you bothering to contact me?

Put your best foot forward. Before you hit send, review your message. Bad grammar and spelling are a major turnoff. The same goes for your profile – whenever you edit your narratives, have a look at your Profile Summary to make sure you’re happy with how others will see you.

Exercise caution. Be careful when including personal details in your message, especially in a first contact. Including an email address may expose your name, place of work, etc, so it’s best to play it safe in the beginning. While we’re pretty confident that there aren’t any axe murderers lurking amongst our members, we have it on good authority that some people can be a tad persistent about sending you mail once they have your real email address.

First impressions go a long way to the second…

First date or message

How do you start off an email love affair?
What do you talk about on a first date? While first impressions do count towards a relationship, long term success comes from getting to know each other. The problem for many of us is the inane way we date. Going to a movie for a first date whilst easy, may leave you feeling a bit empty. After 2 hours of sitting in the dark with a stranger, chances are you’ll still be in the dark about your prospective new partner.

The best way to get to know someone is to talk to them and get them to talk about themselves.

Here’s our top ten list of things to discuss (they may reveal a lot more than you expected!):

• Whom do you admire? Why?
• Tell me about your family: is there anything you would have changed?
• What, if anything, is your most prized possession?
• What’s your greatest achievement?
• Is there anything you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it yet?
• Where do you see yourself in 10 years time?
• What’s your greatest strength? … and weakness?
• What makes you angry or depressed?
• What type of relationship are you looking for?
• Where would you like to live?

Take it easy, with just one or two questions per email or date, possibly discussed in detail – you don’t want to it to sound like an interrogation. Good luck.