How to Make Women Chase You.

Most men shoot themselves in the foot by pursuing women aggressively, a.k.a. “chasing” them. Not only does this behavior turn a woman off, but it completely destroys any possibility that the woman will chase you.

In any relationship, at the beginning, one party is going to be more interested than the other. As a guy, it’s always better for you if the girl is more interested in you than you are in her. Here’s how to make sure that women chase you rather than vice-versa:

1) Go Slow At First

When you first start dating, or even just talking to a woman you’re interested in, you want to take it really slow. Don’t be all up in her business 24/7 asking her to hang-out, texting her, bringing her little presents or whatever. Instead, act casual. Don’t treat her like you think she’s a big deal. Act like she’s just some girl you know.

2) Give Her Space

If you meet a woman at a bar, don’t suffocate her with your attention. The mistake most guys make is that when they find a girl who is willing to talk to them, they stick on her like a piece of lint from that moment on. They stay by her all night, they ignore everybody else, and they basically act like she is the focal point of their entire universe. Bad, bad, bad!

Instead, talk to her for a minute and then turn to your friend or the guy next to you at the bar and start talking to them. Or go take a leak, or whatever and then go back to the girl. This way she’ll be thinking “hmmm? I wonder if he’s going to come back?”

The same thing goes when you’ve just started dating a woman. Keep doing the stuff you were doing before you met her, like going out with your friends… Don’t try to see her every day.

3) Date Other Girls

When you’re dating new women all the time, you send out a totally different vibe than a guy who doesn’t date much. You’ll seem relaxed and content, not anxious and horny like some guy who hasn’t gotten laid in 10 years.

Also, a woman is way more likely to chase you if she thinks you date a lot. If she thinks you’re all hers, she’ll wait for you to call her. If she thinks she has competition she’ll be thinking, “What is he doing right now? I hope he’s not with that blonde he was talking to… Dammit I should give him a call!”

Of course you shouldn’t mention the other girls you are dating, just act like it’s assumed. You don’t even need to be dating anyone else for this to work. Just act like you are. Try to develop an abundance mindset towards dating.

While dating multiple girls is easier said than done, once you have three or four girls you are seeing, new ones will just seek you out and start chasing you because you are putting out this crazy stud vibe that women can’t resist.

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Why Single Women Want Good Sex and Romance.

To be more correct, single women don’t want sex – they want good sex and romance. Women’s desires are much greater than most men realize. But, unlike men, who are just after sex, single women are looking for great sexual experiences. Single women are very discriminating and choosy in picking sexual partners.

They are only interested in having a sexual encounter with a partner that:

Sexually arouses them.
Promises, by his manner or image or personality, to be “good in bed.”
Single women want exciting, provocative, imaginative partners who will lead them through great sexual experiences. Though their sexual desire may be very high, they will pass up just any sexual encounter waiting to find the one that promises to be special.

The fact that single women are choosy about who they go to bed with and have sex with is a dilemma for men, but there is one good aspect to this trait. Single women, once they do choose, tend to stay with him, and are reluctant to change partners. Single women know that good sex is hard to find, so once they have it, they would rather hang on to that relationship than go back out into the market place. Keep in mind this propensity to stay in a relationship because sex exists only as long as the sex is good.

The last thought in this section is something that we have come to realize is a cardinal rule to be used in reading women. That is: SINGLE WOMEN HAVE SEX WITH MEN WHO THEY WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH. At first, this phrase may sound too simple and obvious to have any wisdom to it, but let us expand on it.

The meaning behind it is, that if a woman decides that she would like to sleep with someone, she will pursue that person relentlessly. And on the other hand, if a woman has decided that she is not interested in sleeping with someone, no amount of pursuit or persuasion is going to move her. Many men have wasted their precious time and energy by ignoring this reality.

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Struggling to get woman for a date? Here is some tips on “How to Get Women to Date You”

Hey Joseph,

I was reading The Art of Approaching, under the online openers. And the one where you send an email saying how you’re good looking, funny, etc., then modest, I used that on a girl and she responded very well to it.

But since then it’s been very ho-hum. I can’t get to meeting her. All I got is her AIM screenname. But I don’t know how to take it to the next step. I know that I have to meet her if I want anything to happen, but I don’t know how it should be done. I need your help.

– Stephen


Hi Stephen,

First of all — of COURSE that email got a great response! That’s one of my patented internet dating techniques.

(You know I’d never share something with you that DOESN’T work!)

But you seem to be running into a common problem that most guys who are dating on the internet eventually run into…

THE TRANSITION!

You know, the part where you move from online to offline.

In a way, it’s really no different from setting up a date after meeting a woman in the real world.

See, when it comes to first contact, be it email, telephone, or a cold approach, you should always be thinking of one thing…

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The Date!

Get her to agree to meet with you. Period.

Until that happens, it isn’t real. She’s either not serious or not interested until she commits to a date.

When it comes to email, the trick is to get her on the phone as soon as possible. You could say something like:

Hey, great. You’re a real person. Now that we’ve established that, let’s talk. This email thing is for the birds. You can call me at XXX-XXX-XXXX. But try to call before 10, because that’s when my mom makes me go to sleep. =)

If you’re comfortable with it, you can give me your number and make me do all the dirty work.

Talk soon,

(your name here)

Once you get her on the phone and you’re able to establish some rapport, then you can set up a date to meet.

Make it something low-pressure so she’ll feel comfortable. Something like getting coffee or a drink. This will give you two a chance to get to know each other and see if it’s worth going forward.

The same is true when meeting a girl in person.

Lots of guys like to try and go for the phone number right away.

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But why?

I look at the phone number as a “last resort.”

This is because you want to get her to go out with you AS FAST AS POSSIBLE.

If she’s up for it, take her out right then and there. Ask her if she’s got time for a quick cup of coffee.

If not, try and set up a date right there. Ask her if she’s free the next night or that very weekend.

Once the date is set up, then exchange your numbers.

Or, if she’s not immediately available, THEN ask her for her number and try calling to set up the date.

Remember: Move fast and with purpose.

Until she goes out with you, she’s not really committed to having a romantic encounter.

The WORST thing you can do is hesitate and draw out asking her to meet you again.

Lots of girls will begin to wonder if you’re really interested if you don’t ask her out. So don’t wait. Seize the opportunity when you have the chance.

If you’re really serious about getting more dates than you can handle, you really need to learn my secrets.

You could be letting the woman of your dreams slip through your fingers if you don’t act right this second.

Don’t waste another minute. You don’t know if you’ll get that chance again.

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Have you ever wondered how to talk to woman?

By golly, you’ve actually met a woman.

Maybe you’re in bar. Maybe you’re at the gym or laundromat. Maybe she’s someone you know from work. Or maybe, even, you’re actually out on a date.

In any event, now you’ve got to do something scary, something unpredictable, something with the power to launch a future romantic relationship, or end one before it even gets started. YOU’VE GOT TO TALK TO HER.

What do you talk about? Should you tell her about your childhood, your therapist, your plans for the future, the wart on your big toe? What if you can’t think of anything to say? What if you say the wrong thing? And, by the way, what would be the “right” thing to say? Do you have a clue?

Most guys don’t. When your average gent converses with a woman, he’s basically just flailing blindly at the wind, hoping by chance that something he says will “connect” with the woman and make her fall for him.

Needless to say, this is not the “Don Juan” way of doing things.

You need to have a plan. You need to know DEFINITELY what works and what doesn’t, what to talk about and what not to talk about. You don’t want to leave her feelings to chance or to fate. You want to be charming and in control.

And that’s what we’re going to discuss right now.

Now there are many many aspects of a conversation. This particular article focuses on the conversational TOPICS that you should focus on when wooing a beautiful lady. Those topics which will almost GUARANTEE increased interpersonal attraction. Topics which will leave you in complete charge of the conversation, and which will leave you the option, IF YOU SO DESIRE, of future conversations, dates, or an intense romantic relationship.

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Are you getting excited?

Okay, so WHAT exactly do you talk about?

Well, the first thing to remember is that men frequently err by talking TOO MUCH. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they’re “impressing” the women when, in reality, they’re “depressing” the women.

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you’re saying doesn’t necessarily mean she really is. She might just be acting polite while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away… and never come back.

So key number one is DON’T TALK SO MUCH! Try not to monopolize the conversation and try to LISTEN to what SHE has to say. Remember, everyone is incredibly interested in what they themselves have to say. People will talk to you about themselves for as long as you will listen.

So stop worrying about what you’re going to say next. Focus all your attention and energy on listening to what the woman is saying to you. Try to visualize or “feel” what she’s saying.

This does take a little effort. It’s not very hard to do, but it’s not something that men “naturally” do. You simply have to concentrate.

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Now when listening you want to pay particular attention to any “seeds” or free information she happens to throw your way. Seeds refer to subtle hints that women give that point to conversational topics that they would like to or be willing to discuss.

An example:

Bob: You come here often?
Kim: Actually this is my first time here. Just moved here from Florida.
Bob: Oh. I come here every week. I love this band. It’s pretty crowded tonight.

Bob is clueless.

Kim gives him plenty of free information to follow up on. It’s almost as if she’s testing him to see if he has the intelligence or social skills to capitalize on what she says. Bob fails.

So what would be the “right” thing to say?

Well… she mentions that this is her first time in the club and she just moved here from Florida. Bob could have properly “watered the seeds” by asking a) How does she like the club, band, etc? b) What brought her here from Florida? c) How long has she been in the area? d) Where in Florida is she from? e) How long was she there? f) What’s it like there?

Kim’s two short sentences gave Bob tons of information to follow up on. Tons of conversational topics that she has indirectly indicated that she’d like to talk about. But Bob was too worried about himself. Too worried about the impression he was making. Too worried about what to say next to LISTEN to what she said.

Do you see the importance of listening now? You must concentrate on what she says and block everything else out of your mind. If you listen you never have to worry about what to say next because the other person is “telling” you exactly what to say.

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How to Change Your Love Life TODAY!

Every morning when you wake up, I want you to say TODAY’S THE DAY I will do something about my love life.

Today’s the day I will go to the mall and buy a new shirt and pants for meeting Miss Perfect.

Today’s the day I will smile at all women I meet.

Today’s the day I will go to Barnes and Noble and buy “How to Speak to Girls.”

Today’s the day because the future is built on TODAY. The past is gone and tomorrow isn’t born yet. Today is right in your hands. Today’s the day you will finally make that move.

Every day in March say TODAY’S THE DAY.

Every day in April say TODAY’S THE DAY.

Every day in May say TODAY’S THE DAY.

Every day in June say TODAY’S THE DAY.

Every day in July say TODAY’S THE DAY.

Every day in Audust say TODAY’S THE DAY.

On the Forth of July, when you are near a group of girls say to yourself TODAY’S THE DAY I will start a conversation. Suddenly you will feel a power from inside and it will be stronger than ever before. You will say “I can. I can do it. I feel it. I RULE!”

You see your target. You walk over to her. You say, “What’s your name?” You offer to get her some punch. You feel the power and you make your verbal moves. Soon you can’t believe what you are hearing:

“It’s 999-9999, and that’s Patti with an ‘i’.”

Then a little voice inside tells you “TODAY WAS THE DAY.”

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The Power of Smiling – try it!

What happened to me today just reinforced the first rule of being sociable: Smiling.

I had to give out leaflets today to help out with some advertising. I wasn’t too bothered about it, and I didn’t expect anything to happen from it. However, this is where my natural charm kicked in.

I wonder, have you noticed, that when someone smiles at you in a friendly way, you smile back automatically? It’s something built in all of us.

And today, while I was handing out the leaflets, I smiled at everyone I saw. Not a big-toothed grin, a simple, friendly smile. And sure enough, 98% of them SMILED BACK.

No matter how sour or grumpy they looked, I got a smile out of most of them. Men, women, children, and the elderly. I got smiles.

When someone smiles at you in a friendly way, you smile back automatically.
Of course there was that other 2%, but you know right away if they don’t respond civilly to an innocent smile, they’re probably too stuck-up and weird anyway.

What is my point here?

Simple. Next time friendly way, or a club, or just walking down the street, if you see a woman that catches your fancy, smile. Simple as that.

And you have an instant ice-breaker when she smiles back.

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The Step-by-Step Guide to the Perfect Approach

Imagine you are taking a walk in the city.

The sun is shining. It’s a beautiful day. Or let’s say that it could be a beautiful day if you wouldn’t see so many beautiful women. It’s pure torture. You see one stunning girl after another and they all walk around in short dresses.

You would give everything to talk to one of these girls, to make her smile, and to take her out on a date.

But you are too afraid.

You can’t even remember the last time you approached a woman. Just the idea of approaching a woman makes you want to throw up. You don’t know how to stand, what to say, or when to ask her for her number. If you only knew these things, you would be way more confident.

Don’t you think it’s time to learn the steps of the perfect approach?

1. Overcome Approach Anxiety

Yes, you can approach thousands of women and desensitize yourself to the experience of talking to beautiful women. That can work. But there’s an easier way and it starts in your mind.

Most men are so afraid of approaching women that their mind produces one horror scenario after another. As a result, approaching women becomes a burden instead of an exciting experience.

What’s the solution? Change your focus. Instead of focusing on all the negative things that could happen, you focus on achieving your goals. Imagine how it would feel to kiss a beautiful woman at the end of the date. If you leave your house with this image in mind, you can’t lose.

2. Have Fun When You Go Out

What do most guys do when they go out to approach women?

They are determined to get a few numbers and they try to look as cool as possible. As a result, they look aggressive and way too serious.

That’s not how you get girls. Girls want to date fun guys who love to have a good time. They want a playful adventurer. And in order to become this fun and playful man, you need to realize that approaching gorgeous women is not different than approaching any other person.

3. Don’t Hesitate

Men who hesitate masturbate.

It makes me cringe when I go to a bar and I see a bunch of guys who are staring at a girl without doing anything. The only thing you have to do in such a situation is to walk up to her and say hi.

Not hesitating is the best way to set yourself apart from all the other men who stand there and don’t take action.

4. Be Friendly and Charming

Unfortunately, a lot of guys take the advice to be alpha a bit too far. They confuse being a strong leader with looking like an Uruk-hai from The Lord of The Rings. Sorry, but looking like a mass murderer is not a good idea, at least not when you want to get dates with beautiful women.

Instead of being as alpha as possible, you should test how it is to be as friendly as possible.

Think about it. The moment you approach a woman she doesn’t know whether you are a genuine man or a rapist. You are a complete stranger and being friendly helps her to become comfortable around you.

5. Give Her a Compliment

There are a lot of misconceptions about giving women compliments. And yes, while giving compliments in a needy way can backfire, giving them with confidence can be extremely attractive.

The problem that a lot of guys who avoid giving compliments have is that the women they talk to don’t know what they actually want. When you give her a compliment she knows what you want. This can save you a lot of time.

6. Connect With Her

Every man who wants to approach women should also know how to connect with them. Women want to feel something before they allow a man to seduce them and connection is what triggers these feelings.

But don’t worry. It’s not that hard to connect with women. It’s a simple three-step process.

Share your hobbies and passion with her.
Ask her about her hobbies and passion.
Refer her hobbies and passion to yourself.
That’s how you connect with women.

7. Have a Natural Conversation

A natural conversation flows. There are no uncomfortable pauses and you don’t just switch the topic without a reason.

Keep these things in mind when you talk to women. Don’t just talk about a topic because you want to talk about it and don’t just ask for her number because you promised yourself to get it in less than five minutes.

Let the conversation flow.

8. Read Her Signs

Women are not evil. They want you to succeed. In case you’ve watched the movie Hitch, you know that no woman wakes up saying “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today”.

When a woman likes you, she will let you know.

The only problem is that a lot of men are blind to the signals of women. Most men don’t even notice when a woman plays with her hair or bites her lips. I hope you are one of the few men who are aware of these signals.

9. Don’t Ask for Her Number

One of the biggest mistakes guys make is to ask for a girl’s number. Okay, asking is better than walking away with no phone number, but that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a more effective technique.

Don’t ask for her number. Demand her number.

Women are somehow conditioned to say no when a guy asks them for their number. She doesn’t feel the same pressure when you tell her to put her number into your phone. Say it with confidence and she will do it.

10. Enjoy Your First Date

Just keep your smartphone in your pocket and enjoy your date.

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How to Kiss a Girl and Never Get Rejected.

You’re about to learn, hands down, the best way to successfully get a girl to kiss you without fear of rejection. In the advanced version of this technique, you can even get the girl you’re talking to to lean in to kiss you!

So if you’ve ever been afraid of getting rejected going for a kiss OR you’ve gotten “the cheek” you know why having a rock-solid technique to moving in for the kiss is 100% crucial.

Going in for the kiss is probably the worst place to face rejection in an interaction with a girl because:

You’ve invested a lot of TIME by this point in the interaction, and there simply isn’t enough time in your night to get this far and then hit a brick wall and have to move on.
Screwing up this part of the interaction can ruin all chances of moving on from here to seduction.
Most guys don’t have the chance to learn how to perfect going for a kiss because it happens so infrequently!

Even on a good night, most guys will typically find one girl they hit it off with at the bar where a kiss is probably even a possibility.

So normally, you’d have to face a lot of these rejections one by one to learn the best way to successfully go in for a kiss.

But luckily, I’ve already gone through all those failures for you (until I discovered this killer technique), and can present the best way to avoid failure and shortcut right to success.

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Sound good?

The Kiss Technique makes it so that when you’re speaking to a woman, you can intentionally give off subconscious triggers that will make her think about kissing you!

Pretty powerful stuff…

If You Use This Technique, Suddenly Making a Woman Want to Kiss You Will Be Something You Have Control Over

If you decide to “wing it” in the stage like most guys, however, you’re going to run into problems…

First, you won’t know how physically receptive she is to kissing you. A tried and true rule to go by is this:

Your hesitation = Her reservation

So the more you hesitate, the worse your chances get, because she starts to build up all sorts of red flags and reservations.

When you go to lean in for the kiss and you don’t do it the right way at the right time, you’ll come off as needy (like you don’t have a lot of options with women) because if you did have a lot of options, you wouldn’t be worrying about the kiss with this girl.

So how do we show that you are absolutely NOT needy (even if you kind of feel like you are) and provide a way so that you will not fear rejection because you will know for sure ahead of time that she is wanting to kiss you?

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We use what’s called The Kiss Technique.

This involves combining two psychological concepts into a perfect recipe for mastering the kiss.

The First Concept Is Called Triangular Gazing

This will happen while you have built rapport and are looking to move into seduction. It involves looking from one eye to another, then looking at her mouth.

When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.

Even if you look at a woman you’re not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.

The good news is…the same happens for women.

The even BETTER news is…you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?

By using the second half of the recipe…another psychological concept called Mirroring.

Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.

When you perfectly combine triangular gazing and mirroring, you have a combination that will…

Make Her Subconsciously Think About Kissing You

After talking with her in rapport, start to look at her mouth. At first, only for 2 seconds, then look back to her eyes. Switch between her left and right eye, then back to her mouth for a few seconds longer.

Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.

Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.

When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she’s ready to kiss you.

Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of “making a move”.

You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.

She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.

Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.

Learn more about The Kiss Technique and the bizarre, magical sentence that activates her “sexual triggers” and makes her lean and practically beg you for the kiss.

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How to Eliminate Neediness and Desperation From Your Personality.

If you are a regular guest, I’m sure by now you are well aware of the fact that women are not attracted to guys who crave too much attention from them and despair around members of the fairer sex.

Simply put neediness and desperation is an instant turn-off for women.

So yeah, if you are an aspiring Don Juan you must never display traits of neediness or desperation to women such as calling her often, pouring out all your feelings when you barely even know her, etc.

“Aaah, I already know that,” or “Easier said than done” you might be saying right now.

The Best Way to Eliminate Neediness

Without wasting much time let me introduce you to the best technique you can use to completely rid yourself of the needy-and-desperate you that sets women on their heels every time.

To erase the neediness and desperation that’s setting you back in the dating game you must adopt one important principle: LEARN TO LIVE WITHOUT WOMEN.

I deduced this from a core principle of mine: To attract women you must learn to live without women.

You must be saying to yourself “WTF?” or asking yourself “What does this have to do with eliminating neediness and desperation?”

Allow me to explain.

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Women Can Smell Your Desperation

You know most guys cannot survive without that one call or text from a certain girl each day and act as if their own happiness depends on that one girl. Most guys can’t stand being single and will completely freak out or break down if they get dumped or a relationship ends.

Weak, desperate, needy, clingy, and desperate guys carry this mindset around and it’s a big reason they don’t have the success with women they really want.

Whatever is happening in your mind shows up in your behavior — WOMEN SMELL YOUR DESPERATION!

So instead of being needy, if you’re not freaking out and OK with not having a girlfriend, women will see you as laid back, cool, collected, calm, and confident and it’ll earn you cool points with the ones you want.

You must never depend on any girl for your own happiness. As such, your life must be stress-free, blissful and happy even without women. Never “need’ a girl or woman to be happy.

Take a Break From Dating Women

Honestly, life has millions of things to offer other than the female sex. Indulge in these worthwhile activities. Take a break from dating women for a while.

Read more and subsequently improve your vocabulary and knowledge.
Be informed on current political, social and economic issues.
Dedicate some of your time to your family (and trust me, you’ll never regret this!).
Go out and meet other people, both women and men from all walks of life. Never mind the age, background or culture. This will not only widen your social circle but gives you several perspectives on life that will one day prove useful.
Work on your style and fashion sense.
Take note of your body and work towards improving your health.
Find one thing you can do better than most people and make something of it.
Work on the things you are bad at.
Start a business, put everything you’ve got into it and watch it grow (you’ll love it when you start to see the dollar bills rolling in).
And in everything you do don’t be fazed by failure.
You’ll be happy with yourself and where you are in life because all your successes did not “need” a woman or a working relationship.

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Attractive to Women

You might be asking yourself “How exactly is this attractive to women?”

If you don’t want to come across to a woman as a needy and desperate guy, you must be comfortable with a life excluding that very girl you are trying to attract.

It’s simple — once you get the hang of living a dating-free life, you come across to women as a guy who is sure of himself, confident even without a working relationship, and very different from the rest.

Besides, once you are happy being single, girls will notice and wonder how come you are so sure of yourself and will naturally want a share of your happiness. If you are comfortable being single you’ll convey the message that “Baby, whether you reject me or not, I don’t care because I don’t need you to be happy”.

She will know that saying no will be her loss not yours because you don’t “need” her.

Once you get at that stage where you are perfectly happy single, it’s the women who’ll be doing the chasing.

So yeah, if you wanna be a chick magnet, remove girls from your life and start pursuing other things.

Learn to live without women.

Just don’t stay single for too long. Because there are way too many girls on this earth and life’s too short. So you’ll have to juggle dating and other activities.

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How to Use Body Language and Nonverbal Communication to Attract Women !!

I spent several years studying body language and nonverbal communication. Reading every book, every article, every thing that I could find in a quest to unlock the hidden meanings in our movements and gestures… essentially to be able to read someone else’s mind simply by observing their body movements. It’s quite a fascinating area… and I still dabble in it from time to time.

The only problem with reading the bodies of others, or using your own to project the suave, charismatic image you’d like, is that most of these “little signs” you read about are useless. Interesting, but useless.

You simply can’t look at any one particular body cue, or even a few of them, and conclude, with any level of certainty, what another might be thinking or is going to do. Body gestures and movements always have to be viewed in groups, and placed in context… to be of any use at all.

And viewing groups of movements and attempting to interpret them in relation to the context is just way too much info for a normal person to cognitively process during the course of his or her daily interactions. After all, how are you going to be charming, and witty, and intelligent, if you’re constantly obsessing over another’s every little movement in an attempt to figure out what they might be thinking?

“Let’s see, she’s scratching her nose, adjusting her skirt, crossing, no uncrossing her legs… Oh my God!”

Now if you had the other on tape, and could watch his or her movements over and over again, then you might be able to make some reasonable guesses as to what they may be thinking. But again – pretty much useless in everyday life.

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Nevertheless, there are a few BIG cues that mean BIG things — usually.

I’m going to go over six of the biggest and give you a few suggestions on how to use your body in order to project an image of charm and Juanism. These are very simple things that you can do to increase the probability that others, especially cute girls, will come to like you. Simple movements, essentially, that will draw women to you like a magnet.

So, without further ado, here are The Six Don Juan Commandments of Body Language.

Thou Shalt Master the Smile

The simplest, most obvious, and most powerful of the body language commandments.

Smiling conveys, both instantly and clearly, many wonderful things about yourself. Smiling demonstrates confidence, friendliness, a positive attitude, a good mood, and it gives the impression that you’re someone who is, most likely, fun to be with. It’s also very difficult to ignore. (A Don Juan is never ignored.)

Smiling also conveys to women one other very important thing. Smiling tells her that you’re probably not dangerous.

Always remember, you’re usually bigger and stronger than the woman you’re talking to. So one thing that’s always going to be running through the back of her mind when she’s first getting to know you is: “Is this guy dangerous, violent, or crazy? Would I feel comfortable being alone with this guy? Is he going to hurt me?”

Smiling helps to alleviate this fear. And by simply alleviating this one fear of hers, you automatically increase the probability of her accepting your invitations.

Thou Shalt Be Open and Inviting

This simply means being “open” and “direct” with your body.

The most obvious “closed” body posture is when you have your arms crossed in front of you… effectively providing a barrier to keep other people away and reduce the intimacy in the situation.

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Being “closed” also includes such things as holding objects, maybe a drink or even just your hands, between yourself and the person you’re talking to… again providing a barrier to keep others away. Or an indirect body orientation, such as pointing your shoulders, body, or head in another direction, effectively directing your attention away from the other and toward something else.

Closed body postures are very common because they serve to reduce the level of perceived intimacy in a situation.

When you’re open, directly facing the other with your hands to the side, and possibly your palms facing up and towards the other, you’re exposing or presenting yourself to them. Presenting yourself to others inherently includes the possibility of getting rejected. Since people don’t like rejection, they will often “play it safe” by closing themselves up and, essentially, rejecting the other, with their body language, first — before the other has a chance to reject them.

While this may reduce your risk in the situation, it’s unlikely to be of much assistance in conveying the suave, charismatic image you’d like to portray. To use your body in an “attractive” fashion, and to attract women, you must learn to keep it open.

Thou Shalt Gaze Into the Eyes

Obvious, powerful, and arousing, eye contact is one of the most potent “weapons” in your arsenal.

Direct eye contact shows self-confidence (notice how those with low self-esteem usually avoid direct eye contact). It shows that you’re very interested in her and what she may have to say. It’s hard to ignore. It boosts physiological arousal — both yours and hers — making you seem “un-boring.” And, assuming you’re talking to a girl you’re interested in, it should make you more attractive as your pupils dilate.

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Don’t overdo it though. Too much direct eye contact will make her uncomfortable, and she might wind up thinking you’re a weirdo.

Thou Shalt Nod the Head

Nodding can be a tough one to master. It’s one I constantly have to remind myself to do… as I’m not a natural nodder. But nodding is a very powerful reinforcer. You can literally strengthen desirable behavior by nodding your head, and weaken undesirable behavior by “withholding the nod.”

For example, if the conversation is going in a direction that you like, you can nod your head slightly, and often, to make sure it continues in that direction. If the conversation starts to veer in the wrong direction, you can withdraw your attention, by not nodding your head, and stop it dead in its tracks. Then use your conversational skills to point it in another more desirable direction.

She will love you for nodding. She will literally “perk up” and become more enthusiastic when you nod in response to what she has to say.

Nodding tells her that she is interesting, that what she is saying is interesting, that she has your undivided attention, and that you’re someone who knows how to focus his attention on something other than himself.

Try a simple experiment. Listen to someone without nodding and watch how they sputter along quietly and perhaps uncomfortably. Then begin nodding your head while listening to them and observe how they perk up and become more enthusiastic. The power of “the nod” will amaze you.

“Learn to nod, and the women will nod with you. Forget to nod, and you nod alone.” (getting a little poetic here)

Thou Shalt Get a Little Closer

This refers to standing or sitting a little bit closer. Getting a little closer reduces both the real and psychological distance between the two of you, helping to create a sense of intimacy or “we-ness.” (In a group or crowd, if you can create the perception that you and she are “we,” you’re halfway home, buddy.)

By getting a little closer, you’re telling her that you’re more interested in her, and what she has to say, than in whatever else is going on around you. By giving her your undivided attention, she is almost forced to give you her undivided attention. Getting a little closer is also obvious (it can’t be ignored) and helps to boost her arousal level slightly so you don’t seem quite so ordinary.

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The opposite is also true. Keeping your distance from someone indicates that you’re not really interested in them and would rather be someplace else.

Thou Shalt Learn to Touch

Touching, if done appropriately, has an immediate, almost magical effect on another person. Equaled in power only by the smile and, perhaps, eye contact, you must master the art of touching in order to have any hope of becoming the successful and suave lady’s man you’ve always wanted to be.

In our modern society, we have become a somewhat cold, impersonal, and standoffish people, especially in the larger cities. Most people in our society are literally “starving” for body contact… “starving” for touch. So starved, in fact, that the occasional brief, friendly, touch of another — especially another of the opposite sex — can send chills up and down the spine.

The key word here, of course, is appropriate. Some women will react very negatively if you touch them too soon or too much. Like making your first move, or going in for that first kiss, your first touch has to be done at the appropriate time in an appropriate way — or you may wind up actually doing more harm than good. Always pay attention to the situation and the mood. Never force something if the situation or mood isn’t right.

You judge the effectiveness of your touch, and how good you are at reading the situation, by how she reacts to it. If she seems to lean into your touch or perk up, you know you’ve “succeeded” in your touch. If she seems to “tense up” or pull away, this tells you that you’ve failed to touch appropriately and have a little more work to do.

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So there they are. The Six Don Juan Commandments of Body Language. Easy. Simple. Mastering the above techniques will make you so charming, so irresistible, so Don Juanish, that women will literally fight over you, tear at your clothes, and attack you on the street.

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